FetLife

Bound together Online

We have the internet to thank for many of our modern conveniences. We can have virtually anything in the world that we desire shipped to our front doors in a matter of a day or two thanks to sites like Amazon. We can learn just about anything there is to learn without shelling out massive amounts of money or going into a lifetime of student loan debts due to the wealth of information available online. Need to get rid of a clunky, unwanted piece of furniture fast? Post it on Craigslist and somebody will come pick it up. In need of a job? Sites like Indeed will grant you exposure to hundreds of companies hiring in your area. We are more connected to one another than ever before. And because of this, opportunities abound. The same is true, of course, when it comes to finding communities of likeminded people. With the rise of the social network, it has never been easier to get into touch with people that share the same interests as you, no matter how obscure. Along with the social network came a dirge of dating websites, allowing you to meet a new lover, find a quick one-night stand, or develop a close no strings attached sexual relationship with someone. Apps like Tinder, for example, have replaced the bar scene last call for quick hookups. Sites like Ok Cupid and Plenty of Fish have taken the place of matchmakers and speed dating nights at your local community centers. And finding others with the same fetishes and kinks as you used to require a chance meeting or attending special conferences. Prior to the internet, the life of a fetishist was not the easiest to navigate.

Renaissance of Kink

But, thankfully, nowadays it is easier than ever to get involved in the kink community. Thanks to social networking-oriented dating sites like Fet Life, all of the benefits that contemporary technology has to offer your love and sex life – meeting, learning, and developing relationships – are all rolled into one convenient (and free!) package. Not only does this mean an increase of connections for kink veterans, it also means that the floodgates have been opened. Thousands of people from all over the world, thanks to sites like this, are now free to explore, learn, and experiment with their sexual proclivities. And they have whole communities that they can come into direct contact with (without having to go out of their way in order to seek them out) that are willing and eager to show them the ropes, so to speak, in more ways than one. This is, of course, a beautiful thing … in the past, people could have gone their entire lives feeling sexually unfulfilled and have no idea as to why. Little did they know, perhaps they just did not have the resources or support available to discover their truest, most deeply seeded sexual desires. People have been gradually awakening, though, to the essence of their sexual needs thanks to the internet. Whether it has come from the huge influx of free porn available, allowing them to try on different scenarios and fetishes at will, or it has come from the newly opened up online communities of kinksters and fetishists around the world, there is no denying the fact that the kink community has grown exponentially in the wake of the digital world being cracked open. Fet Life is a site that has combined all of the greatest elements of the internet that have helped would-be fetishists open their eyes to their sexual desires. It has also become a trust resource for long-time lovers of kinkiness to network and link up with people that they otherwise may have never met. Fet Life provides the best aspects of social networking with all of the information and educational materials a budding fetishist could ever hope for. All in one convenient package, absolutely free of charge. Think of it as a sort of Facebook that helps people with kinks get laid. It doesn’t matter what your kink is, Fet Life caters to it. Whether you are a dom looking for a sub; a daddy dom looking for a princess; a slave in need of a master; a hedonist who hungers for fun of any kind; or just curious to explore all of your options, Fet life has you covered. All you have to do is state in your profile what it is you are into (or think you could be into) and how much experience you have, connect with others, and cross your fingers.

The Biggest Online Kink Community in the World

Fet Life was launched in 2008 by a software engineer from Quebec, Canada … a man named John Kopanas (who also goes by his username on the site, John Baku). He started the site (originally called Friends with Fetishes) in 2007, and rebranded Fet Life as a separate site in ’08. And at first, Fet Life was a cornucopia of any and all fetishes, in which any user could create a group for whatever kink their hearts desired. However, in January of 2017, the ability to create new groups was suspended due to the fact that there were an overwhelming number of Fet Life groups containing keywords like blood, incest, needles, and rape. All of these distasteful groups were deleted, a new site policy was created banning such groups, and today the ability to create groups has been reinstated. Since its launch in 2008, Fet Life has grown rapidly. Today, all new users are automatically subscribed to the site’s general group, Fet Life Announcements, which contains over 6 million members (as of 2017). It’s fair to say, then, that Baku’s vision has been quite a success. And, hopefully, nobody has to go frustrated finding a kinky partner the way that the site’s founder did prior to its inception. As you may have already discerned, Fet Life is a groups-based social network. You do not have to join groups to enjoy the site, of course, but it will probably be the best way to enhance your experience. You are still welcomed to simply browse users by location, following and friending them at your will, in a sort of rogue fashion. However, your odds of success are going to be much higher, Pornsites.com posits, if you find groups that speak to your own kinks and partake in the conversations that occur within them. It is generally frowned upon to send friend requests on this site without having some kind of connection with the person first. And these groups are a great way to build and foster those connections. However, once you do create these connections with other likeminded users, you should have no trouble getting friends and followers, and building a kinky community of your own. Much like Facebook, posts and the activity of your friends will appear to you in a feed. From here, you can view status updates, new pics, new videos, pieces of erotic lit, etc.

Minor Flaws Outweighed by Benefits

Which brings us to the first flaw of Fet Life. You cannot comment on these posts, pics, or what have you directly on your feed. Instead, you will have to click into the content and comment on the person’s page directly. This is a little less convenient than one would expect from a site that bills itself as “Facebook but run by kinksters like you and me.” However, Fet Life more than makes up for this site design issue in the wealth of information and connectivity it provides. In addition to the hundreds upon hundreds of groups that exist on the site (many of which, by the way, are locale-specific), you are also able to stay abreast of any kink-related events happening in your area by clicking into the “Events” section of the site. Attend conferences, workshops, parties, and everything in between by checking in often and seeing what is going on in your city (or outside if you are willing to travel). There is also a section called “Fetishes,” which allows you to easily navigate this enormous site by fetish … saving you a great deal of hard work trying to track down the groups, people, and events that would be of interest to you. This works as a sort of tag system. Simply click on your fetish, and open up the site to a customized experience, just for you. At the end of the day, no matter what level of experience you are in the world of kinks and fetishes, Fet Life will be a great place for you to come together with likeminded people to discuss, learn, explore, and maybe even meet up. It may not be the most intuitive or user-friendly social network in the world, but it certainly gets the job done. And then some!